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Myth # 12
I am a hoarder
Just because you have too much stuff does not make you a hoarder. Less than 10% of all people are hoarders. Hoarding is a diagnosable mental disease. It is most likely that you probably simply have too much stuff. If you have more than most people that you know and have a few hoarding tendencies, it is probably because the circumstances in your life have invited one or more of clutter’s best friends to visit you: death, disease, divorce or depression, it is likely that you are not an actual hoarder. If you still feel like you truly are a hoarder, get yourself checked out by a medical professional.
I might really need this some day
One of my clients came up with a brilliant idea all on her own. She now stores the things she might need in her own personal store! She practices going in and out of Target and Costco without making one single purchase. Her ‘not buying’ muscle is now as strong as her ‘letting go’ muscle. She knows that if she truly does need something later, it is a short car ride away!
I need to keep this in order to remember what fun we had that trip!
Your memory will not disappear when the item leaves your possession. Even if you do develop alzheimer’s, which is an argument I commonly hear, with no disrespect, the item won’t help you remember it any better!
I need storage containers before I can get organized.
So many clients rush out to buy containers thinking that this will solve all of their organizing woes. Until you determine what you want to contain and how much of it there is to contain, buying containers is senseless. In fact, boxes, bags and containers are one of the leading contributors to clutter.
So follow this procedure BEFORE you buy any containers. Collect, group, eliminate and then and only then are you ready to think about containerizing!
Clutter is a bunch of junk that I should be able to get rid of on my own.
There are actually 2 myths in this statement.
#1 Clutter is a bunch of junk
#2 You should be able to get rid of it on your own!
I have to keep this because my friend gave it to me.
It is always the thought that counts when it comes to giving and receiving gifts. Just because the person giving you the gift liked it, does not mean that you have to like it too. Also, even if you do like it, but you have several other similar items, you do not have to keep it. Thank them and quietly give it away to a charity that actually can use that item.
As you do this, the gift becomes more than it was. It is a big sign of disrespect to hoard items that you do not love, use or need. Move the gift forward and magnify it’s reach by helping someone else who actually does love or need it! I give you permission to let go of any gifts lying around that you have been holding onto because of guilt or a sense of obligation.
I need to find the perfect place or person to give my donations.
Many clients get stuck with boxes full of donations because they are waiting to find the perfect person to give them too.They spent a lot of time clearing their clutter and making decisions but then ran out of time to research where to donate these items too. They feel that they must find the perfect recipient before they can let it go. This is a very thoughtful gesture but not productive. If you believe in passing your good out into the world, you will probably also realize that no matter where you send your donations, they will end up right where they should and find the person who really needs them.
Clutter is always a messy business!
In my world and in my book, I call clutter muck. Very often clutter is not visible. This is also why as a professional organizing generalist, I organize space, time, data and objects. Muck is anything that makes you stuck or unable to move forward. It does not have to be messy or a pile of junk. It can be an overcrowded schedule or an old belief that no longer serves you.
When I get rid of my clutter, I will finally be organized!
If you get rid of items because you are ashamed by the current state of your home, or feel pressured by well-meaning family members, it will rarely have a long lasting impact and it does not mean that you are now organized. When the pressure is removed, more items will sneak their way back into your home.
You might have gotten rid of everything in your garage that you never use BUT if you still cant find what you need when you need it, you are still not organized. You will still spend too much time trying to find the small hand shovel when you need it.
Without containment or an agreed upon home reserved for each item that you own, you are not organized.